Emotional Vacuum: The Hole I Do Not Think I Can Fill

What if you do not need someone else to fill the gap you feel inside? Stop looking out for someone to fill your emotional vacuum and fill it with love for yourself.
Emotional vacuum: the hole I do not think I can fill

An emotional vacuum has a lot to do with the feeling of loneliness.

We try so hard to avoid “being alone”. After all, most people reject it. Some make fun of lonely people and criticize those who like to spend time alone.

Given that we are social beings, we automatically end up being like others, even though we have strong self-confidence.

But what if we are not like everyone else? What’s wrong with that?

The endless search to fill an emotional vacuum

Couple standing together in a field

In the face of this, we try to fill this inner hole that resounds in our stomach. This hole makes us believe that we are missing something, that we are incomplete.

Maybe all this has a lot to do with when you were a child.

Your parents’ dysfunctional relationship, added to cultural belief in the pursuit of the Dream Prince, has made you feel like half a person, someone who needs someone else to be complete.

What do we achieve with this belief? Nothing. We  only feed ourselves with emotional addiction, a terrible anxiety, and a constant search for the “other half” that will never fill the gap we feel no matter what.

We always seek outside ourselves for what we think we lack within us. This is quite ironic. Being  dependent on others to fill our gaps means that we need others to feel happy.

A hole in my heart: I miss something I can not explain

However, it does not matter how much we search, how much enthusiasm we put into it, and how many lies we tell ourselves. Either way, we will continue to find ourselves in the same situation where pain and disappointment are very much present.

How to avoid relying on others to fill an emotional vacuum?

Not everything others think is right is true.

When you feel overwhelmed because you feel different, when people laugh at you because you have not found anyone and loneliness is what awaits you, you must stop trying to fit in.

Stop wanting your life to be the way others tell you it should be.

Sometimes we should start asking questions about certain faiths that we consider to be true. After all, in reality there are many other ways to see and experience things.

Woman hiding her face

Trying to live the same way as everyone else can be very exhausting and frustrating. It is not necessary to have a partner or to have children to feel fulfilled and complete.

This is a belief that tries to make those who give up what has hitherto been considered the “path you must follow” feel unhappy.

Love yourself, treat yourself

The very concept of believing that we need another half encourages us to stop putting ourselves first in order to prioritize another person who will make us feel complete.

However, this will accomplish nothing more than feeding the hole we are trying to fill with people, loving words, affection and a love that we do not even give ourselves.

We are not aware that if we want this emotional hole to disappear, we must love ourselves. We must treat ourselves and think of ourselves before we become involved in a relationship and proclaim a love that we do not even give ourselves.

It will only be then that we will not depend on anyone else.

So, if a relationship does not work, this hole that caused us so much suffering will not come back. Then we know we do not need anyone to fill it.

We just needed to focus on ourselves.

Woman dancing with birds

Stop thinking you need someone.

Stop feeding the hole created with false beliefs about who you are and what you should be to feel complete.

It’s time to love yourself and to prioritize yourself, even if this is still sometimes seen in a bad light and is still considered ” selfish ” today.

Do not let yourself continue to believe that everything you hear around you is the only truth.

Learn to ask questions about everything. After all, many perceptions do more harm than good, and some feed an emotional vacuum without you even realizing it.

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