The mourning room is a room we all have to enter after a loss. However, there are some ways people avoid doing it.
There are certain stages that repeat themselves, regardless of loss. Today we will immerse ourselves in them.
Avoidance of the mourning room
Even if the mourning room opens its doors after a loss, the fact is that you can avoid entering. However, the doors will remain open and ready to let you in at any time.
When you end a relationship and do not want to enter this room, getting a new partner right away is what you do.
That way , you avoid the first stage that the grief room will definitely get you through.
This is not healthy, because you want to start a new relationship without being ready for it, and you do not want to give yourself the opportunity to close the last chapter.
What are the different stages of grief?
In this first phase, you enter a state of denial. You deny that someone you love is gone, you deny that your relationship with your partner is forever broken, or you deny that you are no longer needed at work.
Denial is a way to turn a blind eye to what is really happening. The reason people do this is because what happened hurt them.
Sometimes people invent a lot of stories. For example, they may think that the person who died is on vacation or that their ex just needed some space.
However, this phase of denial has its own end.
When you stop denying and realize what happened, things change. You get angry at the person who left you, whether they died or ended up with you.
You start thinking things like, “Why me?” , “It’s your fault” , “I do not deserve this” , “I will never forgive you for leaving me.”
It is a stage where you blame the other person for your pain and you hold them responsible for what you feel.
After the mind, you begin to feel hope of reversing the loss. You start looking for options to recover what you have lost.
- If someone you love is dead, try contacting them through the media or other people who claim to be able to talk to the dead.
- However, if you have experienced a breakup, you may be trying to get them back and make them fall in love with you again.
- In the meantime, if you lost your job, you can try to be hired again.
If you achieve what you have decided to do, the grieving process will be interrupted. If you lose that partner or that job again, it will be much more painful to go into the grief room.
If you overcome the negotiation phase and realize that there is no going back, you begin to follow you sadly.
However, you need to be very careful not to get stuck in this stage, as prolonged depression can be dangerous.
This is the last stage, where you finally accept the loss. You no longer have hope of recovering what was lost, and accept what happened, learn from it and move on.
It is a great stage that allows you to remember the good and learn from the bad.
Perhaps this stage does not provide relief right away, but instead gives despair, sadness, apathy and fatigue. Over time, however, you will begin to experience joy and a willingness to live.
The mourning room is one that we must all visit at some point in life. Going through it will make you ward off any bitterness, let go of the past and move on with your life.
Have you ever felt stuck in any of the stages of grief? Which do you think is worst?