Can you recognize a selfish person when you stand in front of one? Do you ever suspect that you may be who you are?
The characteristic features of self-centered people are easy to spot. Maintaining relationships is often challenging for these people, but there are actually some benefits to being selfish.
Jacinto Benavente, a Spanish playwright used to say that people should be a little greedy with their own needs to improve the world around them. Today’s article will tell you how to recognize a selfish person and explore when it is more than acceptable to be so.
What is selfishness?
Let’s start by defining it, the large Norwegian encyclopedia defines egoism as “a way of thinking and acting that is solely aimed at promoting one’s own well-being, and that only takes into account the well-being of others when it can serve self-interest.” Selfish people just do not like to share, but want everything for themselves. You can imagine the many conflicts in their relationship. This is because sharing and generosity are the foundation of collaboration with others.
Funny, but we can only perceive selfishness in others. In fact, most people justify their own selfish attitudes while complaining about the selfishness of others.
The qualities of a selfish person
Now you know a little more about what selfishness is, so you probably already know how to identify a selfish person. Take a look at some of the most significant ones below, and see if anyone will think of you after reading them.
A selfish person always tries to take advantage of others
Selfish people do not mind stepping on those around them to get what they want, whether it is to spend less or to take advantage of a situation to get ahead in their job. In the end, it is the only thing that matters to them, themselves and their own feelings.
They never share
A selfish person only shares when they have no choice and do not like it at all. They rarely lend anything and will always find an excuse for not doing so.
A selfish person is an expert in manipulating
Manipulation is a serious problem, and relationships with a selfish person usually end badly. This is because they only think of themselves and mainly use others.
They lack empathy
A selfish person does not care about others because they lack empathy. Thus, they are the opposite of humble and are actually convinced that the world revolves around them. Their own significance leads them to believe that others are lucky to do things for them.
A selfish person is distrustful of others
This property is a little fun. Selfish people lack empathy and use others to their own advantage and are therefore quite suspicious. However, it can only be an excuse to justify their actions.
Are there any benefits to being a selfish person?
There are benefits to being a selfish person, and you should only think about yourself in certain situations. There are actually times when you need to prioritize your own emotions and make decisions based on them.
Let’s look at some examples:
- It helps to set boundaries, as some do not know they exist and do not even realize that they can benefit from others. Being selfish in these cases will prevent that from happening.
- It’s healthy to respect your own priorities. In fact, things will end badly if you do not. You must always take care of yourself first.
- You want to work better, be more confident at work and even reach leadership positions when your selfishness is healthy. This is because you will not be afraid to ask for a promotion if you deserve it. You will also transfer your trust to the rest of your colleagues.
- Taking care of your body and mind and prioritizing your needs does not make you a bad person. In fact, on the contrary! There is something called healthy selfishness.
Dealing with selfishness
As you can see, certain amounts of selfishness can be positive and even healthy.
In fact, feeling calm and having peace of mind can lead to better relationships and professional fulfillment. Balance is important, but it’s okay to be a little selfish, just make sure it does not get out of control.